Relationships and Astrology
Relationships are an important aspect of our lives and can have prime importance in our overall wellbeing. They contribute to our growth as individuals as we learn not only about others, but also about ourselves from our social interactions. However, relationships can also be extremely challenging at times, regardless of who our partner is, as they trigger parts of us that need to form and grow.
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Astrology can provide us with enormous insight into what attracts us to someone and what repels us. Often relationships are karmic and there may be unfinished business that needs to be resolved. This may be the case where an initially strong magnetic attraction dies out once the karma has run its course, or in longer term relationships where particular issues reoccur for the couple to work through.
Spiritual Astrology reveals the nature of the past dynamics, why the person has appeared again in the present, and what we are intended to resolve in the current relationship. It can help us understand why a partner is wired as they are, to point out the partner’s strengths, weaknesses, and intended directions for growth. Insights like these can lead to increased acceptance of the partner as they are, leading to the partner feeling understood and supported, a deepened level of trust, and an increased willingness for both partners to learn and grow together.
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When relationships are not working or the recurrent theme seems to be a string of similar style relationships that end in disappointment, astrology can help identify the lesson to be learned. It can provide a different perspective and action to consider and embrace in future relationships. Another approach is to draw a relationship chart between two people that can provide insight to the ‘relationship’ itself instead of the individual only.
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Breaking through a co-dependent relationship where individuals rely on others for a sense of approval and/or identity can be another benefit gained through the heightened self-awareness resulting from an astrological consultation. Co-dependency can be deeply rooted in one’s own fears of abandonment that can play out in relationships in the unfortunate way of repeatedly self-perpetuating this fear into reality.
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Instead of blaming our problems on others, astrology can provide the self-insight as to how we may be contributing to, or why we need to experience or attract certain problems. A core message in Astrology is that we are totally responsible for our decisions, our choices and our actions. When things haven't worked out as we would have hoped, we need to look inside as to 'why' instead of simply projecting blame externally. With a broader perspective we can understand the learnings inherent in our problems and what must manifest to transcend them.
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There are particular planets and geometric patterns in the natal chart that can symbolise our relationship style. Later planetary cycles trigger these relationship issues for development, good or bad. By delving into this area we can put the knowledge into practice to build the depth and strength of relationship that we desire, in the form and style that brings us alive as a unique individual. Not everybody dances to the same tune, not everybody responds to the same relationship energetics. Knowing our own dance can empower us to make better relationship decisions that not only bring harmony and love to our lives, but also assists our evolutionary soul growth.